Gay beard
This is a guest announce written by Patrick Carland
While LGBT rights have never been at a greater point than they are now, many gay, sapphic, bisexuality and transgender people still suffer from discrimination, and the unfortunately widespread possibility of rejection from their families or loved ones should their sexuality or gender identity develop known. Some people frightened of having their sexual orientation exposed use beards – friends or acquaintances who pose as their partner. The idea of beards may seem a bit old fashioned, but considering the very authentic difficulties LGBT people meet with regards to their friends, coworkers, and families, they are often a very necessary thing.
What should I do if my friend wants me to be a beard?Do you feel comfortable posing as this person’s significant other? Do you feel easy potentially lying to their friends or family? If the answer to either of these is no, don’t act as someone else’s beard, both for their sake and for your own. A beard should to be somebody the person who needs them fully trusts and respects, and the alike goes for whoever you are bearding. Without these things, having an successful working relationship (even a
Def'n/Etymology of "beard"
Mojo1
I was just talking to co-workers and they said that some hollywood starlet was a “beard”. I asked and got the defn’ that it meant she was a “sham” wife for a male lover guy.
-is this phrase commonly used?
-can it apply to a “sham” husband of a lesbian?
Why “beard”? I can think of 5 words off the top of my head that would describe the situation improve than “beard”.
system2
Yes, a beard is any cover, which is how it originated–like a real beard, it covers things up and provides a disguise.
Gail3
Gay guys are not considered very masculine.
Facial hair is seen as masculine. So, anytime a woman is seen with a guy a lot, people consider they are having sex. This will make the guy seem more masculine, (bearded) i.e. straight.
Elaine on Seinfeld was once a “beard” if I recall correctly.
Gail
“Any major dude with half a heart surely will narrate you, my friend–
Any minor world that breaks apart falls together again…”
-Steely Dan
Mojo4
Yes, a beard is any cover, which is how it originated–like a real beard, it covers things up and provides a disguise.
but a beard is real, even if it is for a disguise. And of
How did "beard" show up to mean "sham marriage".
syncrolecyne1
At least that is what I assume it means - when a gay male star marries a willing gal to squash rumors of homosexuality. Or maybe its any sham marriage for publicity purposes, I am not sure.
This thread title , which is actually about a stars facial hair, got me thinking about how that term came into place. Its sort of odd.
Is this male lover slang or just Hollywood insider talk (I only have heard it used for actors). And is it the marriage that is called a “beard” or is it the wife?
Sampiro2
A “beard” is a superficial thing that a man can do to emphasize his masculinity (rather like a lot of teenagers will grow a little scraggly beard or moustache as soon as they can just to prove they have testosterone). The slang use of the word “beard” started for much the matching reason: it’s a “fashion accessory to prove manhood”, or “Liza with a Z” to her friends.
I have heard the phrase “bonnet” used for lesbians who marry, but it’s not as common.
VH1 had some newer gay slang I’d never heard, incidentally:
http://www.vh1.com/shows/dyn/totally_gay/series_featured_copy.jhtml
Trivia: one reaso
The sad reality of many bearded relationships
Season 2 of Made in Heaven, created by Zoya Akhtar and Reema Kagti, addresses relevant romantic relationship issues faced in our society in each of its 7 episodes. In episode 2 there is a short, yet not-so-subtle reference to an issue that exists but is not spoken about enough in society.
Karan (played by Arjun Mathur), one of the main characters, is gay. His mother is on her death bed and claims Karan’s sexual orientation is the reason for her reaching there. In this episode, Karan is asked by his masi (aunt) to marry a miss to appease his estranged mother and fulfill her wish to see him married before she loses her battle to cancer.
When he responds by saying that he can’t earn married to a lady because he is queer , she counters it by saying that she is his “type”, and that and he should adapt for the sake of his dying mother, so that she can relax in peace.
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I am pleased Karan refused. But many succumb to this pressure. In popular parlance, such a relationship or marriage would be called a “bearded” one. A beard is someone who marries (or d
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